A few of months ago, on that forum I used to frequent, a guy wrote a really long rant about how frustrated he was because of crap that was happening on another message boards he liked.
What had happened was that he got tired of people there using the word "gay" to mean "bad." He told them that they thought it was wrong and they should stop because, and I'm paraphrasing here, being gay isn't wrong or bad. The 'Nets being what it is, the people started to call him gay. He got upset and told them he was not homosexual or bisexual, but 100% straight. Of course, the people kept on calling him gay. Thus, the rant.
What I've been dwelling on, which others may not care about at all, is the fact that the ranter got upset about being called gay when he said that being gay isn't wrong or bad.
Am I the only one who doesn't understand his point of view?
He's human, probably, so I get that he's like everyone else and is a hypocrite and full of contradictions, but it bothers me that after trying to convince people to not use "gay" in a derogatory way, he gets offend by it being used to describe him.
Knowing that it disturbs me I've been trying to figure out why.
Mostly, I think it's the hypocritical nature of the whole thing, but it's also because I've sort of been in that situation.
I know, with a certainty, that there are people who think I'm gay.
I don't talk about any sort of love life, past or present or future.
I have a high voice.
And I'm very willing to discuss my affection for musicals.
Seems totally gay to me.
The times I've been "accused" of being gay, in person since I don't remember it happening online, I just said, "Okay." and moved on with my life.
I knew that I was supposed to get offended (and that if I didn't I'd just "confirm" the "suspicions"), but I never saw a reason to get offended. Homosexuality is a state of being, it's not bad or good, it just is. Why should I let it bother me any more than being called a "hantmek" would?
Maybe growing up fat helps me to let insults roll off of my back. Maybe that guy from the forum didn't grow up with "insults" to his face or behind his back or constantly imagined like I did.
Still, his reaction to being called gay after saying there was nothing wrong with "gay" bothers me.